At the best of times, losing a loved one is a very difficult and painful experience. The world feels empty and what used to be a pleasure is now either irrelevant or a painful reminder of the person with whom you used to share it. You feel like you've lost not only someone you love but also a part of yourself.
Hopefully, nature will take its course and, with time, the wound will heal. You'll be able to return to your life with less pain. You'll still be sad when you think about the one you've lost, but your life will continue.
There are times though when this is easier said than done.
The death of a loved one can stir up a lot of confusing thoughts and emotions. Besides the pain over the loss, you may feel angry with the person for not being there anymore. You may try to repress the anger or feel ashamed of it.
A deep sense of guilt sets in: was it something you did or said that caused the death? Could you have done more or done things differently? And what about the lost opportunities and the last chances? In some cases, the guilt is so deep that it may push you to do harmful things to yourself or to not take advantage of the good things you have.
The people that care about you may begin to push you to "get a grip" or "get over it." Their intentions are good but they can't seem to be helpful enough. They may also be trying to come to terms with their own sense of loss.
At times like these, psychotherapy can be very useful. You'll get the support you need to work through your feelings without judgement or pressure, and you will get the help you need to draw on your strengths as you struggle through this painful period. By the end of the process, you will be better able to find meaning in your life again and reconnect with the people important to you.